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‘Breastfeeding: It’s More Than About Nutrition’ – Especially for Black People #RealTalk (Video)

When I was a guest on the Queen Ifama Show a few weeks ago, she and I discussed the politics of Black breastfeeding, and why it is so important for our community to take a special note on the reasons we need to support each other. They are countless, of course, but she and I focused more on the political aspects. Throughout that hour she continued to mention the ‘psychological bond’ that is built between a woman and her child, and said she wanted to ‘keep re-iterating that!’ I mentioned that a friend of mine who spent time as a social worker and interacting with women and their children, said while visiting these clients a pattern emerged among Black and Native women —  that they did not want to breastfeed because they didn’t want to get ‘attached’ to their baby.

I have always looked beyond the practical and mechanical aspects of breastfeeding to delve deeper into the social issues, but I hadn’t explored the areas that Queen Ifama discusses in bonding to this extent. I asked her if she wouldn’t mind sharing her thoughts on this through a video, which is the one she made below, and even though all of it is supportive of this tradition, my emphasis is on the second half — after the practical aspects. Queen Ifama says there is a complete lack of information on nursing — beyond nutrition — and that the comfort that is experienced between mother and child can act as protection throughout our lives. She emphasizes that everything ‘starts at the breast,’ and suggests that bonding is a way to ‘incubate our children,’ and can serve as an agent in helping to restore centuries of psychological damage and other remnants of slavery — like that ‘fear of attachment,’ which I’m sure stems from this era, and I’m just as certain was used as a self-preservation method in the face of being indiscriminately bought and sold. This is all very significant for Black people given our history, and the fact that we continue to live in this racist and oppressive society.

8 thoughts on “‘Breastfeeding: It’s More Than About Nutrition’ – Especially for Black People #RealTalk (Video)

  1. I love the picture of the mother sitting on the ground with her baby — where is it from and might someone be able to get a print of that holy depiction?

    1. Ruth, I think you may be commenting on a completely different post, and since you mentioned the word ‘holy’ I think you may be talking about the post with all of the Madonna and Child depictions, is this correct? This post:

      If that is the case I am not sure where to tell you to go to find a print. Each of those images are linked to the place where I found them online, so you may start your search by clicking and going from there.

      1. The post about the Madonna and Child across the cultures is GREAT, but I mean the image starting around minute 2:15 of the Queen Ifama video. Where did she get it, and how can I get a copy? I LOVE how it is earthy without being prurient and how the halos seem superfluous, because the mother and baby’s absorption in each other comes across as so holy. And I love that the mother is not a white celebrity, but a black woman with what I think of as maternal proportions. I want my black clients to be able to see this. I want ALL my clients to be able to see this!

    1. There are many who (I absolutely believe rightfully) say that not wanting to get too close to their baby was used as a self-preservation technique (among other ways to cope) by women since many were forcefully removed from their newborn during slavery — either by having to go and leave the baby or by being ‘sold’ off or ‘purchased’. I have also heard that this is the case for other groups as well — such as Native American mothers who say they don’t want to ‘get too close to the baby’. Both, I *know*, can trace these attitudes to a very complex history.

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